the awkward moment when your friend hands out invitations to her “american themed” fancy dress party and you have to spend the whole day explaining to people why it would be racist to “dress as an indian.” Some people took the advice well;
girl: I might go as an indian!
me: ooh…erm..it’s just that its a bit dodgy, y’know…race wise
girl: oh, I guess you’re right. I’ll think of something else!
and others not so well
guy: I might go as an indian!
me: c’mon, really? its a bit racist, don’t you think?
guy: what?? nooooooo. How?
me: well…its stereotyping a group of opressed people. Its like if you pretended you were black
guy: noooo it isnt! its not racist! we’re not american!
I’m gonna have to keep arguing against it lest I attend a party full of hipster wankers as shown in the pic. On a side note, I’m planning to dress as Dolly Parton.
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I love Comedy. I used to soley watch comedy, excluding all dramas, thrillers, documentary in all forms of media. I’m also forgiving of most comedy, even though I’m a feminist I have laughed at sexist jokes in the past, purely in a “laughing AT sexism way” or in a “haha some people actually still think like that way” but recently we have seen the emergence of the whole “go make me a sandwich” phenomena.
I’m sure this started out as a light-hearted jab at sexism, and that’s how a lot of people use it, but lately it seems like a way to completely dismiss anger AT sexism and to openly be sexist. On memebase,there are a lot of examples of this joke used in different ways. If you look at memebase its not hard to see male privilege. Most ‘memes’ feature men as the subject and often revolve around other sexism calling cards such as the pile-of-bullshit ‘friendzone’ (in which men complain that they showed a woman basic human kindness and she didn’t immediately swoon at their feet) or laughing at a woman who didn’t dress reservedly enough. On the ‘after 12’ page on memebase,all about parties, women who drink or enjoy clubbing are often reffered to as ‘woo girls’ in an obviously derogatory sense.There is no male equivalent of this term, its apparently just wrong for girls to enjoy nights out. Usually in some kind of jab at teen pop sensations, the joke ultimately revolves around stupid girls and their lack of cultural savvy. Sometimes the joke revolves around how women complain but ultimately have it waaaay better than men (because…..like…..its really hard to get a six pack? and girls are always cooonstantly bitching about having to diet and stuff) or focussing on a ‘troll’ who makes a derogatory joke infront of a woman. But ultimately, the ‘go make me a sandwich’ joke is ubiquitous on memebase and now in youth culture. Again, there is no male equivalent of this joke - no ‘go slaughter me a buffalo’, no ‘go perpetuate the patriachy’ and no ‘go bring me home some bacon’. A large part of the problem stems from the fact that women are always the butt of the joke.
So what about when it is used in real life, or at least outside memebase? Because it is ‘a joke’, as is often the case with racist/abelist/transphobic/homophobic jokes we aren’t supposed to get mad ‘cause that makes us a killjoy. Especially if the minority around whom the joke centres is not present. “Well obviously I wouldn’t say that infront of REAL african orphans! goooodd take a joke!” Not too long ago two male sports commentators were heard off the record joking about the female linesman during a football game. The recording got out and in amongst the furore they were fired. I’m not entirely sure they SHOULD have been fired, rather made an example of and sent on their way with all their female collegues and women they meet knowing what sexist pigs they are and treating them accordingly. However my least favourite collumnist , the Daily Mails’ Peter Hitchens once again piped up with his view that white, middle class, straight, christian men are under fire from minorities, here he said that they should have recieved no punishment at all and this was an example of the emerging “thought police”. Aparently we shouldn’t tell our children that it is wrong to disrespect a group of people, and letting people be as damaging as possible with their words is what freedom is. Ah! great britain! However something he did say was pure nonsense. Aparrently women shouldn’t have bothered getting upset about this at all, if they were as strong and independant as they claim to be something like this shouldn’t bother them. Apparently strength and power means taking abuse without question. Lets examine ‘strong’ here. Lets replace womankind with something undeniably strong…say…The Hulk. If someone told the Hulk that he should get back to the kitchen and he wasn’t fit to be anywhere near a football pitch, you think the Hulk would say “hulk strong! hulk invincible! as such HULK has no need for puny commentators, Hulk is too busy being strong to stick up for himself” or do you think Hulk would smash the motherfuckers? That is what I thought.
Peter Hitchens is a man who complains whenever someone swears on TV, immediately dismissing their opinion cos they are too vulgar to listen to and saying how offended he is. Apparently people are not allowed to react similarly of a large and oft-attacked part of what they are is degraded. But lets move on. The attidude is that if you care about a joke then you are no fun, you should always be ready to laugh at yourself, even if its a part of yourself that means you are opressed. The most damaging way the ‘go make me a sandwich’ joke is used is when a woman is angry at sexism. Especially if she identifies as a feminist. Its used as a way to turn her anger into something lighthearted and ultimately dismantle it. Recently on my blog I talked about an incident in a club when I slapped a guy who deeply disrespected me. When I spoke about it on facebook, within 5 minutes a boy had written “go make me a sandwich”. My Mum thought it was funny,as to her he obviously was making fun of the fact it was such an innapropriate thing to say. She didn’t understand why it made angry. It made me angry because someone had just turned something that made me proud of myself into a punchline. And it wasn’t the first time. Every time a woman gets genuinely angry about sexism someone takes the opportunity to repeat something they read on a t-shirt and get their back slapped, while the woman who was trying to stand up for herself becomes ridiculous in their eyes, especially if she doesn’t fall about laughing. Ask yourself if you can remember that last time you stood up for yourself and you were genuinely angry. Then, if they didn’t already, ask how you would have felt if someone had made fun of you and completely stopped taking you seriously? how angry would you get? how angry would the Hulk get? We’ve all been in the situation where we were truly angry at someone and we mispronounced a word or phrase, only to have our anger turned into a complete joke and dismissed. Showing the slightest weakness while you’re angry exposes yourself to the part of human nature that needs for you to ‘stop bitching at me!’. Apprently, being a woman is enough of a weakness, an exposed nerve to attack. So at least try to think about how appropropriate your internet-regurgitated ‘hilariousness’ is, and ask yourself, would you treat the Hulk like this?
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Hey, did you know that girls are DUMB? Moviefone does! They wrote a really super specific GIRL’S GUIDE TO ‘THE AVENGERS.’
Girls, we know you’re just going to this movie because your boyfriend wants to see it. I mean, we drag them to romcoms and chick flicks all…
yo, FUCK THIS NOISE! me and my friends went in a big mixed-gender group and we all loved it! I didnt need anyone to whisper in my ear to sing Joss Whedon’s praises, I did it by myself! I hate all this “aren’t girls a bunch of shallow fawning idiots with terrible pop culture taste” AND all this “aren’t boys bloodthirsty geeks who only like action movies”
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HOLY.FUCKING.SHIT. MY OVERIES ARE EMBEDDED IN A CINEMA SCREEN IN A GREY NORTHWESTERN MARKET TOWN AND IT CAN KEEP THEM FOR ALL I CARE.
DUDE.
JUST….DUUUUUUDE!
athousandheartsattack:
And possibly my favorite of their ongoing Avengers poster series, Mondo’s super badass THOR, by the über talented Martin Ansin.
Kickass! I’m hoping to turn tomorrows Avengers screening with my mates into a Rocky Horror stylee interactive event
1) first to spot stan lee cameo yells “excelsior!”
2) first appearance of Cap yell “‘MERICA, FUCK YEAH!”
3) If thor ever says “I’m thor” you have to yell “WHERE ARE YOU THOR?”
5) hold up a handbag and go “ooooh!” for every bitchy exchange between Iron man and Cap.
6) everytime they dod something together, yell “Go team!”
7) yell “day-um!” every time Scarlett Johanssen looks sexy.
Add you own!
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Tomorrow.
Also tomorrow. All of my mates are going with me! It’s on!
iamafuckingwalkingparadox:
3 more days. Avengers
seeing this on thursday after school with all my mates. One of us, an even bigger fan that I, did extensive research and got the only available screening in our area of the country. Truly, we are a privileged few. First to spot the Stan Lee cameo wins a puppy. I can’t.fucking.wait.
I love you too, Joss Whedon!